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We Do Not Move Unless We Are Bothered
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There are many books about inner daily life, but there are not many that combine real originality with intellectual integrity. But it is exactly this combination that Eddie Rafii has been able to produce. The author has given us a careful study that will be valued for years to come. What strikes me at once is the comprehensiveness of the current undertaking. Many contemporary books deal with particular aspects of the inner life, but this one is different in that it deals with an astonishing variety of important topics; much of its freshness of treatment arises from a lifetime’s thinking, observing, and experimenting. The author has undertaken to examine a wide spectrum of experience, from simplicity to multiplicity, from joy to suffering, and vice versa.

A.Farnoody, PhD, psychology
Jondishapoor University 


 I Love to Be Bothered is a manual for achieving a more serene life in the midst of the constant stress of daily life. The book draws on common sense, everyday examples to help ordinary people improve their lives. By following the step-by-step procedure, readers will develop greater patience, problem-solving skills, and general happiness. In addition, readers learn how to enjoy life by appreciating what they already have, rather than suffering from society’s expectations of what they should acquire.

Jeff Karon


Hi Eddie! I really enjoyed the book- It really makes you think about the world around you in ways one may not have considered before. Congratulations, I can't wait to see it on the shelves!

Christine Reynolds

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November 3, 2008

I really enjoyed reading I Lobe to be Bothered by Eddie Rafii.  The author opens a new window to view and encounter our every day events: A balance between want and fear. As mentioned in one of the book chapters “we don’t to move if we are not bothered – we need problems to be alive.” In another chapter it is mentioned that “Whenever you are unhappy from any problem, just think the enjoyment waiting for you. As such, we should thank God for our problems, not ask Him to keep them away from us. Problems bring suffering, which results in enjoyment.  There is a joy for every suffering; enjoyment without suffering is impossible. ” 

I recommend this eye-opening book be published and distributed among interested readers.

Esmaiel Malek,
Associate Director of the Utah Climate Center,
Associate Professor, Dept. Of Plants, Soils, & Climate,


Review by Dr. Peter Rosi

It is truly refreshing to read a sociological analysis articulated in a common vernacular.
In “I love To Be Bothered” Eddie Rafii reveals a layman’s perspective of the multitude of inconsistencies and idiosyncrasies that most academics find difficult to explain. He expresses a unique understanding of life realities.

Peter Rosi, Ph.D., Claremont University  


Want to achieve a more serene life in the midst of daily stress? We can, says researcher Eddie Rafii, when we come to see the forces at work that control our motions. Trying to avoid problems at all costs? The goal of I Love to Be Bothered is to help readers understand just how valuable problems are—because they put us into action, motivating our life and our creativity.

J. Karon 


Mr. Rafii,

I am in the process of reading your book for the third time. Frankly I am shocked that there is actually someone else in the world that shares my basic belief in the absence of free will. Every human responds to circumstance and every human is under the illusion they possess free will. I have been a Christian for many years and actually began to question the presence of free will when, very early on in my Christian walk, I was introduced to the "doctrine of the elect." Over the next 20 years, through studying Scripture, I have come to a wealth of conclusions; and my study is anything but finished. Without going into great detail about the evolution of my understanding, suffice it to say, it was a joy to read your work. It is obvious you have spent a great deal of time observing how humans respond to their surroundings as well as other humans. I must also say I have found no part of your study with which I would disagree save the obvious absence of God in the equation. However, you do mention God as the creator on page 24 of your publication; though this, to me, provides very little consolation. I have waited the better part of six months to write you, and during that time I have decided that there is much you did not include in the content of your book. I think it not possible that you could have conceived this study without your realization of Gods intercession. I believe your effort is of a spiritual nature and I do so wish I could sit with you over a cup of tea and discuss Gods perfect balance of the Universe. If you can not answer please believe that through your effort God has corrected an imbalance in my life.
David White 


I Love to Be Bothered is the culmination of thirty years of deep thought and research. It began with a simple question when Rafii was nineteen years old: What happens to our mind and body that causes us to initiate motion? To solve this conundrum, he began to engage in intense observation of himself and others. He began to see how conditioned his own mind had become after a lifetime of indoctrination. By altering his ways of thinking, he was able to transform himself. “I am an ordinary man,” Rafii says, “and this was no easy task. It took me seven years to eliminate all cultural, religious, and other beliefs that had been so strongly instilled and embedded in my mind.” Over those years, he says, he fought the battle between his beliefs of origin and his sense of logic, until he successfully overturned the “untrue beliefs” and “cleared his mind to complete his thoughts.”

Book Surge Editor


The greatest problems of our time are not technological, for these we handle fairly well. They are not even political or economic because the difficulties in these areas, glaring as they may be, are largely derivative. The greatest problem is unhappiness; unless we can make some progress in this realm, we may not even survive—this is how advanced cultures have declined in the past. For this reason, I can become a truly mature being by cultivating life in the manner that Eddie Rafii describes.

A.Farnoody, PhD, psychology
Jondishapoor University 


The benefits that I have gained from reading Eddie's book is a release from blaming myself of guilt; from the past, for the present and the future.

Parviz Farmand


My appreciation to a such extraordinary Talent, full scale advanced pro.I am shocked to learn High level of quality with this big gift of "self improvement " delivery to your Readers and Audience

Sid Meh


My Favorite Eddie Rafii

Facts of our life 

Fact 1- We always want to be comfortable. Fact 2- We make motions only when we lose our balance. Fact 3- A loss of balance always generates a want in us. Fact 4- There is always suffering and joy associated with every motion. Fact 5- The more we suffer, the more we enjoy...

By: Noor Amin Ahmed Nobel
Consultant (Banglalink) at Centre for Engineering Studies & Design (CESD)Studied at Rajshahi University of Engineering & Technology 08Lives in Dhaka, BangladeshKnows Bānglā, EnglishFrom Bogra


February 22 at 8:30pm

I like ur writting so much. Your concept has changed my life. I need the book but from I couldn't purchase it throu

Wish You All the best
Noor Amin Ahmed Nobel


Pong Lin Yeh 

A wonder thinking in our time.


Jarad Perkins March 14 at 2:59am Report

Hi Eddie,

I offten think about your book on having to suffer, before you can experience true pleasure. 

After paying attention to these things in my life I think you are %100 right. Nothing that 'feels' good can feel its best unless you suffered first. 



Noor Amin March 13, 2011 at 4:14pm

I have no word to thank u Rafii. I got your book. I praise your universal thinking. Very best of luck.


From Nazy Ehsani, June 1-2011

I am sure that your book will heal many people's mind frame.


Does free will exist?

You have ended the freewill debate.

John Motla March 29-2012


From:                              judy quinn 
Sent:                               Wednesday, July 18, 2012 10:31 PM

 Dear Eddie,

You are a very talented man!  And your gifts extend far beyond the imagination  It was so very thoughtful of you to give Bill and me a copy of your book, "I Love To Be Bothered".  It was a most interesting read and gives us some idea of your thought.  Not only that, we now have new thought processes too!!!

Thank you, Eddie, and stay well.

Judy Quinn
Laguna Niguel


November 22, 2013
HI Eddie
I read your book and it was nice to see things in a different light. It makes you understand how intertwined negativity is with happiness. Let me add that pain also another imp component and that when you don't learn from it you will continue suffering until you change. I hope to stay in touch and continue learning.

Best Regards